Make Yourself Unforgettable

1 07 2014

In living out my purpose in life helping others, I meet hundreds if not thousands of people for the first time every month.  When I first Make yourself unforgettablebegan this journey I was so self conscious that I would try to impress them as fast as possible with the words that came out of my mouth. After reading many books and many hours of experience, without a doubt I know the best way to be unforgettable to someone is to become a great listener.

The Dale Carnegie Training book: Make Yourself Unforgettable, teaches how to make a lasting impression through class. In a world where everyone is talking but nobody is being heard, becoming unforgettable is as simple as becoming a good listener.

Some common mistakes when listening to others:

*Rehearsing – Thinking of what you will say and not hearing what they are saying.

*Evaluating or Prejudging.

*Story Topping.

*Truth Telling – You are fixer so you “tell them how it is” as they are telling you a stressor in their life.

*Fault Finding – Disagreeing with them for the fun of it.

*Placating – Not listing but saying things like “Really” to appear that you are listening.

*Derailing – Taking over the conversation.

Now, we are all guilty of doing each of these mistakes at some point in our lives. The idea is to not beat yourself up about it rather know what they are so we can identify them in the future. This would be the defense of good listening. The offense of good listening is taking a proactive approach and not focus just on what bad listening is, but also focus on what good listeners do.

What good listening is:

*Make listening a conscious choice – make a decision to become a good listener.

*Put your expectations aside – Hear what they are saying and not what you think they are saying through your filter.

*Ask Questions

*Maintain eye contact

*Pay attention – focus Danielson! Don’t check out!

It is funny that when my influence was smaller, I did most of the talking. Now I found that most places I go, I do most of the listening and yet now I lead much larger groups of people. I find that people are so hungry to be heard in a world that does not listen, you become a person of class when you will truly listen to them to inspire them to reach the the life they have always wanted to live.

Hope this helps! It has helped me immensely!

Steve Leurquin

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8 responses

22 09 2014
ask.com

wonderful publish, very informative. I ponder why the opposite specialists of this sector don’t notice this.
You should proceed your writing. I am sure, you have a huge readers’ base
already!

2 07 2014
April Wrage (@WrageMom)

I look forward to reading and applying this book! Thanks for sharing it! And congratulations to you and Jamie!

3 07 2014
steveleurquin1

Thanks April! It is a great book!

2 07 2014
steveleurquin1

Thank you Adam for being such a student/leader of personal development.

1 07 2014
chrismikeska

What an excellent article on improving relate ability. It’s amazing how such simple things can be overlooked in conversation. I look forward to applying these timeless principals.

Thank You Steve

2 07 2014
steveleurquin1

Thanks Chris. I appreciate your feedback. We all have amazing tools at our fingertips for a great life!

1 07 2014
AdamRossman

Steve,
This is great stuff.

I would say that you definitely practice what you teach. Keep teaching!

1 07 2014
AdamRossman

And congratulations to you and Jamie!

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