Training Your Life For Success

29 01 2013

On becoming a leaderAll great leaders overcome. Many have to overcome financial hardship either being born into poverty or the financial risk it takes to get ahead. Others have to overcome circumstances of overcoming physical limitations or being born into cultures that do not naturally nurture the gifts they were born with. Warren Bennis explains in his book On Becoming A Leader, all will have to overcome obstacles but the toughest obstacle to overcome is oneself.

Bennis stresses the importance of knowing oneself to overcome any obstacle. The bad news is that we all struggle with self-imposed limitations that stem from our thinking. The good news is all of those limitations can be defeated by reframing our thinking in a constant search of knowing ourself.

All of the leaders I talked with agreed that no one can teach you how to become yourself, to take charge, to express yourself, except you.” 

I have read many books about great leaders, past and present, with a common theme, all of them struggled throughout their journey with their own negative thinking. I recently read books about a national championship coach and a super bowl winning quarterback and do you know what both of them struggled with? Their own bad thinking. Now if leaders at that level with that much success struggle with themselves how do you think your friend is doing? How about yourself?

Author Bennis explains there are four ways to develop your self-knowledge in-turn destroying your self doubt.

1. Know that you are your best teacher – Learning is intimately connected to self and the only way to learn is to get out there and do thus learning the lesson through self-evaluation.

2. Accept responsibility – Blame no one.

3. You can learn anything you want to learn.

4. True understanding comes from reflecting on your experience – Having a conversation with yourself at asking good questions at the appropriate time to come to truth about you and your life.

Leadership is a tough game only because the four things above are so easy to do, but they are even easier not to do. When one begins to do the easy over the easier their leadership journey has begun.

Steve Leurquin

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16 responses

12 02 2013
Dayna Wilkerson

Thanks for sharing Steve! I look forward to this book!! My Dad would tell me I had all I need to win in life but lacked belief in my true self. I love that we get the opportunity to share this caliber of information with people to get them where they want to go in life. Learning these principles has saved me from myself.
180! God Bless

1 02 2013
Greg Streuly

Awesome Steve! I love that fact that people search for the easy steps for becoming a leader, or they pay thousands of dollars to get a degree/license that says they are a leader, and Bennis lays it out in four steps. BOOM! you want to be a leader? Here’s what leaders do. Don’t think you can do those things? Develop yourself so you can.

31 01 2013
Steve Sager

Accepting responsibility from point #2– love it! That describes The Life Business !!

30 01 2013
AdamRossman

I’m really looking forward to reading this book now! I don’t really know too much about Warren Bennis, but it sounds like some really powerful content. I like being enabled like this!!!

30 01 2013
Clint Fix

Thanks for the post Steve! It reminds me of the saying that successful people could have made the same excuses as the unsuccessful, but chose not to.

30 01 2013
steveleurquin1

The power to choose is a powerful thing!

30 01 2013
Kelli Sager

Great article Steve ! I like point 2 the most . If we all stop blaming everyone else for everything that goes wrong in our lives , and take responsibility for our own mistakes , things would start to look a little different . Not only in our personal relationships , but in our country and world !

30 01 2013
steveleurquin1

I like number two as well!

30 01 2013
AdamRossman

I like number 3. To me it seems like common sense, now. But a couple of years ago – I didn’t realize this. Its exciting to think that I can learn to do/be anything I want!!!

31 01 2013
Keith Crook

To keep the same vein going, point 4 is powerful. Can we look at the results we have in our lives right now and ask ourselves if the decisions and actions we’ve taken to this point given us the results that we want? Are we where we want to be? If not, see points 1, 2 & 3.

30 01 2013
Keith Crook

How cool is it that once we realize that we must overcome ourselves to move forward there are many resources available to us from leaders that are farther down the path than we are. Those leaders have written books filled with their stories and the wisdom they’ve gained while taking on their own negative thinking. One of the best things we can do is to dive into those books and then seek out mentoring.

30 01 2013
steveleurquin1

That is so true Keith!

29 01 2013
Kirk Richie

Awesome post Steve, this is a great reminder of the Battle of the Mind. Like Orrin and Chris say the 11th Commandment is thy shall not fool thyself, I am so grateful to have awesome Leaders like you Steve, all of the Leaders on the TEAM are our biggest cheerleaders and encouragers. As Orrin says our business and life is about, “Constantly admitting to ourselves where we stink without getting a bad attitude about it… then taking a shower!” To top it off we have great Leaders like you to help turbo charge us on the personal PDCA journey to success!!

30 01 2013
steveleurquin1

That is some great thinking bud!

29 01 2013
steveleurquin1

Hey Bryan, It is a great to have a path to positive thinking. The success stories bring comfort to know everybody stuggles with their thinking but it can be contained. We are glad for your great example of positive thinking.

29 01 2013
Bryan Kemp

Great post Steve… We are Blessed and Thankful to have Leaders like you to help remind us to quiet down our “Stinkin Thinkin” and that the only thing standing in or way is ourselves. I don’t remember who originally said “no matter where we go there we are” but I like to use it as a reminder of the common denominator to all the problems we face in this journey that we have begun. Self deception is an easy habit to slip back into, thankful we have a great community of positive people like you and Jamie to associate with and great cd’s and books from the top leadership minds in the industry to help us realize who we were created to be and keep our thinking right.

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