Raising Girls in LIFE

23 01 2012

Jamie is an awesome mother, wife, and leading lady of a large leadership community. I am so proud of her strength and courage raising two daughters the way God meant her to. The positive difference she is making in this world will last generations.  Enjoy, Steve Leurquin


Being a mother with two of my three kids being girls, I know all too well the struggles that girls face as they are growing up. My girls are 9 and 4 so they are not too deep into any drama, but my personal experiences have created a desire to prepare not only my daughters but myself for the struggles they will encounter.

Where does one go for such instruction as to how to successfully raise children? I decided to delve into some books from people who have had the experience and success with raising girls. My mentor, Lisa Hawkins has 3 girls and is well versed in the area of raising girls. By looking at the behavior of her girls, I know she is doing the right things! She has a daughter one year older than my oldest so she can stay one step ahead and guide me. She can also recommend books that have helped her, which limit my trial and error of finding the right books. Through the books that are recommended to me, I have been guided into understanding more what is happening in our culture and what our children are up against.

I must say after reading through some mind opening books, I am even more disgusted and angry at our media who messes with the minds of our beautiful children. With the continued exposure of what the media says is “beautiful”, more and more girls are focused on body image and falling victim to eating disorders. A less than appropriate clothing attire is available to kids, consisting of tight fitting low cut shirts, thong underwear and jeans that are cut low to expose the item worn underneath. Available for our children 7 and up!

Why allow the media to determine the values my children should have? Who are they to impose ideas and thoughts into our families heads that stop any natural thinking to occur? Instead of competing with the media, Steve and I decided our children will not grow up with TV, magazines, or negative “pop” music that would give them the values and beliefs we oppose.

I feel so blessed to be a part of the LIFE community that does not base any opinions on a person by outward appearance, but on the heart of a person. Whatever flaws a person has on the outside can be covered up by the beauty they hold within, but if a person has character flaws, outward beauty can not disguise it. The information available to our family through LIFE has been a tremendous source of education for my children’s development. Not only does it start the thinking process, but the focus is on creating a better you. My children have a strong, growing understanding of themselves and others. I am excited they have a love for learning and know their personal growth in all areas will escalate, assisting them in being a success in life.

A few of the books I read and recommend that focuses on raising girls:

5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter, Vicki Courtney

Raising a Modern Day Princess, Pam Farrel and Doreen Hanna

Bringing Up Girls, Dr. James Dobson



Jamie Leurquin




11 responses

1 02 2012
John Graff

Thank you Jamie, I Love watching you and all of the Leading Ladies on the Team with their families. I wish I had started reading sooner, I know I could have done a better job with my own daughter. I used to say, “she didn’t come with a manual”, I was wrong. I never had anyone,(correction, I never let anyone) in my life guide me through a system of information to make the decisions I should have been making to be a better mom. I can only hope and Pray(alot) that being a Gramma, I can help influence my now Adult Daughter, and my Grandaughter with the incredible information we have been exposed to.
Thank you again,
God Bless

31 01 2012
David Schoechert

Jamie, as a Dad of two young ladies (young is relative), my heart is overjoyed with your direct & clearly stated post. I think back 40 some years when I was in the service & how saddened I was to see what underprivileged young girls had to endure in poor countries. I was so thankful that would never happen in this country because we were so blessed. Now I feel that same sadness as I look at our society & see how the media encourages our young girls to act & dress. Is it too late? It’s not if mothers AND fathers take responsibility to make a difference in our future as you & Steve have. And the LIFE community is the tool to make it happen. God bless. David

26 01 2012
Kristen Seidl

Jamie, this was an awesome article! You hit the nail on the head. While I can look back and wish I had access to this information 10/15 years ago, I can feel blessed knowing the hundreds and thousands of mom’s out there who are raising their girls with understanding and knowledge of the demons that fill our media. One day when I get the title of ‘mom,’ I hope to have the courage to face the epidemic and protect my girls as well. Thank you for this post!

24 01 2012
Leadership and LIFE

Excellent post Jamie! You have such an incredible way to shed light on such a serious topic that is affecting the little girls that are always watching. Super job giving resources to point other mommies in the right direction. I feel blessed to have a mom like Laurie Woodward to get guidance in that department and feel equally blessed to have a mom like you who has decided to do something about this little girl epidemic we have on our hands! I am so proud to be in this battle of winning and keeping the influence throughout our girls lives! Love you lots! Lisa

24 01 2012

I don’t know anything about this blog but stumbled on it through a Google Alert. I too am raising Girls and have recently opened my eyes to see what the culture around us is teaching us. I would add to your list…Dannah Gresh’s Six Ways to Keep the Little in Your Girl and Nancy Rue’s The Mom’s Ultimate Guide to Tween Girls (there is a companion book for Dads too).

23 01 2012
Mike and Emily Hebbe

Great post Jamie, you are so good with your words on such a sensitive subject. Looking back on my own past and knowing my two girls are going to be subject to even worse can be so scary at times!! I am so thankful to have amazing leading ladies like yourself and Lisa to have the insight for this very different world our girls are going to grow up in. It seems that no matter where we go or what we do the images and ideas that are in everyday life are getting more crude. The fact is that this leadership revolution that the TEAM and LIFE leaders are leading us in will change my daughters futures!!! I am sure of that!!!


24 01 2012

You are right, Emily. The leaders of Team and LIFE are making a change in a world that is looking for leadership. It is a blessing you and Mike have linked arms with the other leaders to join in this battle. You are a fantastic mother!

23 01 2012
Shannon & Kelly McGinley

What an amazing blog! I absolutely loved it! I only hope to one day be as great of a mom as you. With mentors like you and Lisa, all of us ladies can learn an immense amount from you both.

Thank you for always sharing your heart!


24 01 2012

You will be an amazing mom, Kelly. We are in a fortunate position that we have such incredible resources to gain the information we need to move us forward in life. LIFE has answered the prayers of so many!

23 01 2012
Teesa Rossman

Thanks for the book recommendations for raising girls!

23 01 2012

Thank you so much Jamie! I respect you and Lisa so much in many areas, but parenting and your abilities as wives are on the top of the list. I appreciate not only your hunger, but your analysis and recommendations that we can follow and get great results are priceless.


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